HoneyMoon

So the most recent update on my life is….i got back on Instagram. And ofcourse I m feeling Hott again!!!!

Now what made me go back on that was my pretty old friend whom i connected with recently. See u really got to ignore my Caps I. Coz i m on desktop and my fingers only cooperate with the mobile phone keyboard.

Okay so that OLD Friend asked me to write down something positive FOR ONCEEEE!!!

So I m going to start with a basic quote which is actually full of dimensions.

“IF you won’t love yourself, you’ll end up chasing people who wont love you either.”

So the rule 1 is being a sucker for YOURSELF. Got it!!!! This is so so sooooooo important. Trust me on this. Our whole life we are taught to be the biggest critics of our own self but that is so fkin toxic.

Honestly I have been so brutal with myself and kind to jerks who wronged me, why!!! firstly coz I am a dumbass bitch! and secondly coz did u notice! how I called myself out and I don’t usually go so rude with the cruel breed.

Rule 1 not only enhances our body language but also makes us the Thermostat of the room i.e., we set the bar Bitch!! Another perk of this is increased self worth and then of course self respect. They go hand in hand.

Now this on the other hand will Increase your sense of self! What is that good for? That increases positivity and productivity and hence, increased rate of success and satisfaction. And that is the basic requirement for being a Happy and Healthy Individual.

Dimension 2 of Rule 1 is only for people who get manipulated easily and think that they are the dumbest of all. So, first of all you are not!

Coz Patrick Star once said, “Dumb people are just blissfully unaware of how dumb they are.”

But you are not, coz you are aware of manipulation. Anyway so if you’ll keep being an Agreeable person then being assertive would be difficult for you. So what you need to understand is-

“Kindness is okay, but not when it suppresses you. The person who is cruel but only discloses it when required is thousand times better than someone who can never be cruel.”

Jordon B Peterson

How can I start loving myself? Hmm… beautiful question… but the easy answer to this is… start helping yourself first!!!! Yes! Right!! “Start helping yourself like you would help someone else in need“. This time you are the one in need. Push Yourself little by little everyday. And slowly and steadily you’ll fall for yourself too, exactly the way you fell for that douchebag.

You dont need any near death experiences to make your life the best or realize its purpose. It is completely bullshit!

For all these years I kept waiting for one “shocking” moment to turn my life upside down, to experience that typical “turning point.”

Thats actually the worst you can do to yourself, killing your drive, increasing procrastination, laziness ofcourse and then creeps down the thoughts of existentialism.

Me!!! I am no expert it is just an account of my thoughts, but doesnt it make complete sense.

Now this sense has brought us to the #2 rule and that is, Change is always possible.

The moment you decide that you want to change your circumstances, change will start manifesting itself. And it is so organic, zero rocket science.

“Man’s search for meaning” is a well known and brilliant book written by psychiatrist Viktor Frankl, and it explains that how life completely transforms when we realize that even today, at this moment we can mend our past fuckups. And this same idea can get you to release your guilt trips, past baggage and ofcourse motivates you to work it up. But motivation to work on works for hardly a fortnight. But we’ll deal with that in next post sometime.

Now, i guess you must be wondering that is this just the whole point of my life! to keep a eye on past continuously. Now i constantly struggled with the question of purpose of life and no answer seemed to satisfy me.

But the simplest meaning and purpose of life is to create a meaningful life, both for yourself and for your loved ones. Taking actions in a manner where no one is harmed and in the most amicable manner. This was rule#3 i.e., living and taking actions as per what suits you, not on the whims of others. For E.g.; choosing a course your family doesn’t agree for, marrying for yourself and not for society, trusting yourself in spite of all manipulations.

Rule #4 was the hardest for me to understand, and that was letting go.

Letting go often creates a picture of setting someone or something free. But actually, it is setting yourself free from all the baggage.

Let of of the negativity around, toxic people around you, be it a toxic friendship or relationship. It feels like the hardest thing to do. But once you follow and drench yourself in rule 1, you’ll be fine with it.

As of me, I haven’t mastered any of these, as of now, but you see, I m trying. And just even in trying I m more happy and satisfied.

Hope you feel more enriched, peaceful, purposeful and energetic with each passing jiffy.

K Bye.